Subject: I (27F) eloped with my husband (29M) six months ago, which upset my controlling, traditional MIL. She banned me from Christmas dinner, and my husband didn’t stand up for me. He brushed off my hurt feelings, saying she’d come around, but she didn’t.
Christmas was the final straw. My husband went to dinner without me. While I was home alone, he called saying his mom collapsed from chest pains, but hours later, I saw on Facebook that she was fine, posting a happy family photo. When I confronted him, he downplayed it and said he didn’t want to upset anyone.
MIL overheard the call and called me selfish for not being there to “support the family”—even though I wasn’t invited! Now my husband says he’s “caught in the middle,” but I want respect, not understanding. Am I overreacting?